feat: add attempt tracking, deadlineMs, and structured error codes

- Resolve `LookupResult` with an `attempts` array describing every network operation (phase, server, duration, error) so failures recovered by fallback remain visible
- Add `deadlineMs` option for a hard cap on total lookup time, distinct from per-operation `timeoutMs` (lowered default from 15 s to 10 s)
- Add `errorCode` (machine-readable `LookupErrorCode`), `errorPhase`, and `errorServer` to `LookupResult`; `timeout` covers both per-op and deadline timeouts, `aborted` means the caller's signal fired
- WHOIS timeouts now distinguish `connect` vs `read` stage and resolve with partial text (marked `partial: true`) when data arrived before the socket stalled
- Drop Node 18 support; minimum engine is now 20

package.json

@@ -69,6 +69,6 @@
     "vitest": "^5.0.1"
   },
   "engines": {
-    "node": ">=18.17"
+    "node": ">=20"
   }
 }